Mindfulness Writing

In my Last Post, I talked about setting small attainable goals. My most recent being to write a little every day, which at first I found difficult. But in my creative writing class, I discovered mindfulness writing, in which I take a notebook and sit and write constantly for 5 minutes, about anything that pops into my head. No filter, no need, it’s definitely not something I would show to another person. It doesn’t need to be perfect, coherent or neat, and it is common to jump quickly from thought to thought as is natural in our brains.

2016-03-06 21.31.56If you’ve never heard of mindfulness it is a practice created from Buddhist roots which help a person focus on the moment at hand. Instead of the usual focus on the past or trying to look to the future which can lead to stress, anxiety or depression. It is often associated with meditation but there are many other ways to practice Mindfulness that are just as effective. Mindfulness writing can help you focus on the thoughts you’re having at that particular moment.

This made writing much easier and more enjoyable. I was writing for myself rather than to please anyone else and it helped give me the confidence to begin many pieces I was unwilling to attempt for fear that they would not turn out perfectly. It’s given me the confidence to start putting pen to paper, or in this case, finger to keyboard.

If you get a moment to practice Mindfulness writing I would love to hear how you found it and I hope it serves you well. Peace out!

MoonWink xoxo

You are NOT perfect and I’m not even sorry

I’m not going to be one of those inspirational posters that say ‘everyone is perfect just the way they are’ because it’s not true. No one is perfect and aspiring to be that way is just setting yourself up for failure. I say this as a perfectionist myself. After having almost a year of CBT, I have come to discover my low self-esteem is what hinders me more than anything and that all stems from my desire to be perfect, which it turns out is an impossible task. Setting standards that are too high for ourselves can pull us down even when the goals we create have been put there to raise us up.

However, I do admit that having goals is important. It’s true that we as people need to be constantly improving ourselves. It’s quite common to never be fully satisfied with what we have, thanks to our consumerist culture. But it’s important that these goals be attainable and set with smaller steps that will help you get there. For example saying ‘My house must be perfectly clean all the time’ is putting too much pressure on yourself and starting slowly is where you are going to go right.

Begin smaller, try with making sure the sink is clean before bed and once you’ve got that down add something else into the mix. If you’re struggling then there is no shame in going back a step.

Living with a mental illness like depression can make even the simplest tasks seem incredibly difficult when you can’t motivate yourself and I hope this advice helps in some way. But it is also there for people who aren’t suffering, that have a goal in mind.

MoonWink xoxo

I hate those Stars

I hate those stupid, little glow in the dark stars,

I used to love them you know,

Knowing we hung each one from the ceiling together,

Placed carefully,

Each spot chosen with care

I would see them and think ‘these stars are just for us,

Our own little Galaxy’,

Now whenever I look up at them I notice the empty side of the bed,

And realise that they shined brighter for me.

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What exactly do I post first?

Being not so sure where to begin, I shall just write. I have no idea what this blog is going to consist of, most likely nothing of too much substance or interest to anyone. But hey maybe that’s just my negativity talking here. I’ve always wanted to be a writer, to share the things I’ve learned with others in hopes that it might help them. Whether suggestions on how to improve someone’s life or outlook or something simple such as places I might suggest to visit, even just something I’ve found to be interested in. I guess what I’m trying to say is I would appreciate the thought that a person may take something positive from whatever it is I have to say to the world. So enjoy!

Moon Wink xoxo